A couple of drinks out at the bar and a hug that’s kept going for just a second too long. Like, your old friend from high school or that guy who lives down the hall in your dorm?
And with some advice from Julie Spira, best-selling author and the Cyber Dating Expert, and stories from real collegiettes, you can take charge of your flirtationship. “More often than not, it does become a romantic relationship.
“And as soon as one person has more feelings than the other or as soon as one person meets someone else and moves into a relationship, all the rules change and someone can get hurt.” Say you meet a new cute guy and say this guy asks you out.You don’t feel obligated to spend money on date after date or have the awkward meet-the-parents dinner to please your partner in a flirtationship.You can save your weekend nights for clubbing with the girls and splurge on those to-die-for heels you just hadto have. Like any gamble, in a flirtationship, you run the risk of ruining the friendship.I know it has a lot to do with sexual tension and repression on his end considering that his girlfriend lives hundreds of miles away from him... It's a mutual understanding that this is just how our friendship works, but I do know that his girlfriend would be devastated if she knew how we act around each other.” So far, it hasn’t ruined her friendship with Paul, but she cautions collegiettes that flirtationships are definitely “dangerous territory.” “When his girlfriend came to visit in December it was so awkward,” she says.“We always hug each other so when she was around I had to monitor my behavior to avoid any trouble.” The worst case scenario can happen when the whole flirtationship falls apart.