Be courteous...you're not living in the movie Swingers where you're supposed to wait X amount of days to call back. If you weren't interested in him, you should have never agreed to go out. Thou Shall Let the Man Take the Lead I know it sounds old-fashioned, but it's embedded in their DNA—men need to feel like the hunter. That also means no baggage dumping, previous health issue talk or discussing any skeletons in your closet. Answer his questions with energy and genuine enthusiasm. Busy men don't like rude girls—and there's plenty of fish in the sea besides you! Thou Shall Honor Your Commitments Believe it or not, it's hard for a guy to ask a girl out—online or in person. Once you're in that committed relationship, well, that's another story. Here are the top seven “don’ts” on a first date: 1.Don’t Mention the Ex Or how many other people you’re dating. Or which Patriots quarterback you’re lusting after.Don’t Get Wasted Anyone who’s watched Jersey Shore knows the deep and profound wisdom inherent in rule No. If only Vinnie had heeded this rule, he might not have ended up in bed with the Staten Island Dump.“Do not drink past two glasses of wine or two cocktails,” Stanger warns. Do not think that you can do a third because you’re an Irish Catholic and your dad can drink your mother under the table. (Ladies Only:) Don’t Bring Up Marriage or Kids Yes, it seems very 1950s to say that men can broach the subject of matrimony and children but women have to avoid these topics like the plague.After the jump, let’s debunk some of Patti Stanger’s advice over Twitter … THE GOOD: “Don’t rule out the techno nerds from the electronics show, or the sci-fi or comics guy.” Very true! “Always be prompt and never make him wait more than 10 minutes.” Yup. “Single men do not go on cruise ships.” It is really their loss.There is a lot of pussy waiting for a dude willing to reenact that scene from “Titanic.” “Phone behavior sabotages more budding relationships than just about anything else.” So true. “A man with a strong sense of providership may not be rich, but he’ll find ways to spoil you.” Totally true! The problem with saying “men” is there’s a cultural precedent of men who LOVE to be waited on hand and foot. “4:1 Rule: every four times he takes you out, do something nice for him.” …. “Men fall in love through their eyes, and women fall in love through their ears.” Not even dignifying this one with a response, y’all.
Right is like shopping for a winter coat on Amazon.
The more I thought about it, the less it made sense and the more it seemed to be zen koan-like thought farts.
Patti Stanger’s Twitter feed is filled with these thought farts.
Don’t Use Them for Therapy Bravo’s other reality-show stars would do well to heed Stanger’s third rule. She doesn’t want to know how your short-selling ways helped bring Lehman to its knees.
Job woes, childhood complexes, mental-health issues, recent deaths in the family, divorces, child-custody battles, lawsuits, jail time, war crimes: all best left in the closet. “Even if you’re the greatest person in the world, we’re going to put you in the negative category.” Baggage dumping is apparently a big problem on first dates, “especially if you have too much to drink,” which brings us to:4.