I understand that God can use all things to work together for the good of those who are in Christ, but I cannot help but wonder if God would encourage a relationship that is unequally yoked. I’m not ignorant enough to think that God hasn’t used an unequally yoked couple for His good, but I will still fall on the side of discouraging relationships where both parties aren’t on the same spiritual page. (Proverbs 16)Your relationship with God should always be put above your relationship with anyone else, and that includes your future spouse.My wife and I both encourage one another to make God our first priority, and in doing so, our relationship with each other will flourish.Letting physical intimacy run wild and free typically means the emotional, spiritual, and personality attraction is lagging behind. Sex while dating can create many awful shades of gray, when what your relationship needs is some honest black and white.One of the greatest causes for conflict in marriage are contradicting core values.The most important relationship to a Christian should be their relationship with Jesus Christ. Every other relationship is secondary, and not to be put before our Lord, God.If a Christian decides to marry an unbeliever, one has to ask whether or not he or she is choosing to ignore what God says about being unequally yoked.This isn’t to say that unbelievers can’t be good people, but I am saying I’d discourage you from dating someone who isn’t on the same spiritual foundation as you.It’s going to mess you up, confuse your heart, and potentially smother your soul.
It’s a bad situation, and sadly common, but generally preventable if you ask your most recent crush one simple question: When was the last time, prompted by what you read in the Bible, that you repented of sin and changed your behavior? Tweak the wording how you like, but that’s the question in a nutshell. Repentance, then, will always have observable effects of accrued obedience.They may have felt pangs of conscience over a mistake, had streaks of religious fervor, gotten swept up in emotion at a conference, but nothing has ever coalesced.Fringes have hung around the edges of the God-life and are used to floating with its current.When I was dating I remember constantly being smothered with that giant question like a bloated bear was sitting on my head, refusing to move. To magically stumble upon like finding the gold at the end of a rainbow that is being carried by a unicorn with leprechaun jockey.But how are you supposed to know which one is the right one?